So after a few phone calls and some back and forth communication with Steve I ended up re-scheduling with the same shop with the agreement that it would be a weekday, and if they run into any problems I will make sure they have the number to contact Xenon Depot for support, which they better do.
Just a quick update here. I got one bulb in and working. Ran out of time today so I'll do driver's side (battery side) tomorrow. I'll post later with more details, but just so you know, the XD bulbs go in very easily with no trimming or cheating. The secret : insert them with the long tab in the same slot as where the long tab on the OEM 9012s went. I originally thought I would go with where the connector rested with the OEM bulbs and try to match that position with the xenons ; wrong, since the tab configuration is different, you have to go with the long tab as a guide, not the connector...
In other words : OEM 9012 rests in the housing with the connector at 2 o'colck which means its long tab rests at 8 o'clock (ish). When you take out the OEM bulb (twist it CCW), the long tab comes out at 5:30 ish on the housing. I'll post pics of this later. So when you insert the XD xenon, the long tab must go in at 5:30 ish which means the connector will be at 2:00 ish (going back to my bulb photos a few psots back >> long tab on XD bulb is in the 8:00 position when the connector is at 6:00 while OEM long tab is as 12:00 (opposite connector).
So the connector's final resting position (twisted in) on the XD bulbs is 5:30 ish (where the long tab went in).
I'm guessing your shop guy tried to insert the bulbs with the connector as a guide. I tried that a few times and they won't go in, not without cheating/twisting which I didn't even attempt.
Result for passenger side : no shadow, bulb well seated and beam pattern same as with the halogen bulb. It's not dark out yet but I'm guessing 40% brighter than the OEM 9012.
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